When I was a teenager in the 70s I felt like as a female, I could do anything. I’m still waiting for the first woman President. I have never felt like I could not do anything I set my mind to.
Unfortunately women in a corporate workspace have to witness so much gender inequality and discrimination, it is very disheartening. We all know that men still get paid more than a woman doing the same job. I wish this weren’t true today, but it usually is.
There are so many double standards in our culture, but especially at work. Here are just a few of them.
If a woman tries to implement change by bringing up improvements, she is seen as “Complaining”. If a man does the same thing, he is forward-thinking,
If a woman pushes to be acknowledged for her contributions, she is being needy or asking for attention. If a man does this he is applauded for being confident.
If a woman asks for a raise, she is seen as being too pushy. For a man, this behavior is looked on positively and encouraged.
If a woman asks to help, she is seen as being weak, but a man is seen as being brave or strong.
If a woman challenges her boss, especially a male, she is too aggressive. If a man does, he is assertive and is taken seriously.
If an older woman is vying for a project, she is seen as too outdated, while an older man is many times seen as ‘experienced’.
Although I keep running into these obstacles, I will not give up. Perseverance and determination are things that nobody else can take away from me. I will be successful in spite of the nay-sayers and without help from others. I am sad that the world has not changed as much as I thought, but I still believe I can accomplish great things, and I tell my daughter that she can, too.