Double Standards

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Double Standards

When I was a teenager in the 70s I felt like as a female, I could do anything. I’m still waiting for the first woman President. I have never felt like I could not do anything I set my mind to.

Unfortunately women in a corporate workspace have to  witness so much gender inequality and discrimination, it is very disheartening. We all know that men still get paid more than a woman doing the same job. I wish this weren’t true today, but it usually is.

There are so many double standards in our culture, but especially at work. Here are just a few of them.

If a woman tries to implement change by bringing up improvements, she is seen as “Complaining”.  If a man does the same thing, he is forward-thinking,

If a woman pushes to be acknowledged for her contributions, she is being needy or asking for attention.  If a man does this he is applauded for being confident.

If a woman asks for a raise, she is seen as being too pushy. For a man, this behavior is looked on positively and encouraged.

If a woman asks to help, she is seen as being weak, but a man is seen as being brave or strong.

If a woman challenges her boss, especially a male, she is too aggressive. If a man does, he is assertive and is taken seriously.

If an older woman is vying for a project, she is seen as too outdated, while an older man is many times seen as ‘experienced’.

Although I keep running into these obstacles, I will not give up. Perseverance and determination are things that nobody else can take away from me. I will be successful in spite of the nay-sayers and without help from others. I am sad that the world has not changed as much as I thought, but I still believe I can accomplish great things, and I tell my daughter that she can, too.

21 thoughts on “Double Standards”

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  2. Women aren’t just seen as being aggressive. That was probably your way of saying it nicely. That’s another thing women are taught — especially in the South ( I am a NC resident). The men say we are bitchy and worse. I won’t spell out what they call us. It isn’t fair, but life isn’t fair, so we all do the best we can. More women should back each other instead there are quite a few who will side with the men and stick a knife in your back for the brownie points.

  3. Double standards will always exist, I’m afraid. It doesn’t matter how far we’ve come, there will always be a comparison between men and women.

  4. I couldn’t have said your blog any better!!! Women are still under-minded…no matter how hard we try! Although, we shouldn’t have to try…should we?!

  5. We definitely have double standards in every day life…whether we notice it or not! Sometimes things have happened to me, and it isn’t until later that I think to myself..”Hey, wait a second!” We are so used to certain things happening in every day life, that we don’t even know it’s happening!

  6. This is so true! It doesn’t seem to matter how far we’ve come, we’ve also lost the “niceties” in life! A man giving up a seat on the bus for an elder woman. A man opening up the car door. Somethings we’ve gained, but some things we’ve lost!

  7. I feel sad that this happened to you. It is nice however that you still did not give up regardless of these obstacles.

  8. I don’t you could of said it any better! I also was a young adult in the 70’s and I know the impact it had on me. Just knowing I could do anything – aside from being a mom and housewife. But I also have seen the double standard – but not for me. I have several political positions and was a legal secret for over 25 years – then I became disabled and now I just seem to be floundering . But thanks for the great article!

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